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Tis the Season…To Prevent Head Lice

Spring and summer present a time where kids are changing their social circles and that means Head Lice are on the move!
It is a fact, when kids attend camps, sleepovers, sporting events where helmets are used, lice outbreaks occur. So, what does a parent do?
The following tips and tricks for prevent head lice:

  • Use Ladibugs Lice Prevention: Shampoo, conditioner, mint spray, detangler
  • Put long hair back in pony tail, bun, braids.
  • DO NOT share hats, helmets, combs, brushes, hair accessories.
  • Avoid head to head contact if possible… limit group selfies!

Statistically head lice affects an estimated 12-20 million people in the US every year. Once a child has head lice, 85% of their siblings will acquire, 65% of moms and 10% of care givers. As you can see head lice is not only a childhood issue but a family issue. It is always a good idea to do frequent head checks before and after camps to ensure no lice are brought back to the home environment. You will want to look at the first half inch of the hair shaft from the scalp out for tiny tear drop shaped nits/eggs. You will know for sure if the tear drop shaped nit/egg is attached tightly to the hair shaft. It will be unable to be brushed off hair shaft unlike dry scalp or dandruff.

One of the most important pieces of advice is to talk to the parents in your social circles if your child does acquire lice. Let others who have been around your children know. Lice is not something to be embarrassed by as lice likes clean hair and knows no socioeconomic differences. By being upfront and honest with those in your friend circles it will help massive outbreaks and lessen the time and financial commitment to treating these pesky parasites!

For more resources on head lice go to www.ladibugsinc.com and you will find photos, FAQ’s and where to buy prevention products. The time is now to prevent lice so they don’t wreak havoc on your summer!

5 Values You Should Teach Your Child by Age Five

Many parents think that it’s premature to teach values to a toddler or preschooler. But that’s a misconception. Here are the values that all children should develop by their fifth birthday, and some easy ways to make them stick.From Parents Magazine

Value #1: Honesty

Help Kids Find a Way To Tell the Truth
The best way to encourage truthfulness in your child is to be a truthful person yourself. Consider this story: Carol decided to limit the number of playdates between her 3-year-old son, Chris, and his friend Paul. The boys had been fighting a lot recently, and Carol thought they should spend some time apart. So when Paul’s mother called one afternoon to arrange a get-together, Carol told her that Chris was sick.

Overhearing this, her son asked, “Am I sick, Mommy? What’s wrong with me?” Carol, taken aback by her son’s frightened look, told him she had only said he was sick, because she didn’t want to hurt Paul’s mother’s feelings. Carol then launched into a complicated explanation of the distinctions between the various types of lies, and Chris was confused. All he understood was that fibbing is sometimes okay-and that, in fact, it’s what people do.

Your child takes his cues from you, so it’s important that you try to avoid any kind of deception, even a seemingly innocuous one. (Never, for instance, say something like “Let’s not tell Daddy we got candy this afternoon.”) Let your child hear you being truthful with other adults. Carol would have been better off saying, “This isn’t a good day for a playdate. I’m concerned that the boys were fighting so much last week. I think they need a break.”

Another way to promote the value of honesty: Don’t overreact if your child lies to you. Instead, help her find a way to tell the truth. When the mother of 4-year-old Janice walked into the family room one afternoon, she saw that her large potted plant had been toppled and that several branches had been snapped off. She knew right away what had happened: Once before, she had seen Janice making her Barbie dolls “climb the trees,” and she’d told her daughter at the time that the plants were off-limits. When Mom demanded an explanation, a guilty-looking Janice blamed the family dog.

Janice’s mom reacted sensibly: She interrupted her child’s story and said, “Janice, I promise I won’t yell. Think about it for a minute, and then tell me what really happened.” After a moment, the child owned up to her misdeed. As a consequence, Janice had to help clean up the mess and was not allowed to watch television that afternoon, but her mom made sure to emphasize how much she appreciated her daughter’s honesty. In doing so, she taught the child an important lesson: Even if being honest isn’t always easy or comfortable, you-and other people-always feel better if you tell the truth.

 

Value #2: Justice

Insist That Children Make Amends
At a recent family gathering, Amy and Marcus, 4-year-old cousins, were making castles out of wooden blocks. Suddenly, Amy knocked over Marcus’s castle, and he started to cry. Witnessing the scene, Amy’s father chided his daughter and ordered her to apologize. Amy dutifully said, “I’m sorry.”

Then her dad took her aside and asked, “Do you know why you pushed over his blocks?” She told him that she was mad because Marcus’s castle was bigger than hers. The dad told her that though this was no excuse for destroying her cousin’s castle, he could understand her feelings. He then sent her back to play.

The father’s reaction was similar to that of many psychologically savvy parents: He wanted his daughter to identify and express her feelings and to understand why she behaved as she did. That’s okay, but it isn’t enough. In order to help children internalize a true sense of justice, parents need to encourage them to take some action to remedy a wrong. For example, Amy’s dad might have suggested that she help Marcus rebuild his castle or that she bring him some cookies as a gesture of apology.

Saying “I’m sorry” is pretty easy for a child, and it lets her off the hook without forcing her to think. Having a child make amends in a proactive way conveys a much stronger message. If you’re aware that your child has acted badly toward someone, help him think of a way to compensate. Maybe he can give one of his trucks to a playmate whose toy he has damaged. Perhaps he could draw a picture for his sister after teasing her all day. By encouraging your child to make such gestures, you emphasize the importance of treating people fairly-an essential value that will one day help him negotiate the complicated world of peer-group relationships.

 

Value #3: Determination

Encourage Them To Take on a Challenge
Five-year-old Jake showed his mother a drawing that he’d made with his new crayons. “That’s very bright and colorful,” she told him. “Nice job!” The child then ran to his room and dashed off another drawing to bring to his mom for praise-then another and another.

“Each one was sloppier than the last,” his mother said. “I didn’t know what to say.” A good response might have been: “Well, Jake, that drawing isn’t as carefully done as your other one. Did you try your best on that?”

Determination is a value that you can encourage from a very young age. The easiest way to do so is by avoiding excessive praise and by providing children with honest feedback, delivered in a gentle, supportive fashion.

Another powerful way to help kids develop determination is to encourage them to do things that don’t come easily-and to praise them for their initiative.If your son is shy, for instance, quietly encourage him to approach kids on the playground, even if it makes him feel nervous and scared. If your daughter is quick to blow a fuse, teach her strategies (such as counting to ten or taking a deep breath) for holding back a temper tantrum. Congratulate kids when they manage to do things that are difficult for them. The child who hears “Good for you, I know that was really tough!” is bolstered by the recognition and becomes even more determined to keep trying.

 

Value #4: Consideration

Teach Them To Think about Others’ Feelings
Anne was frustrated because her daughters, ages 3 and 4, ended up whining and fighting every time she took them grocery shopping. “I finally told them that we needed to figure out how to do our shopping without everyone, including me, feeling upset,” Anne says.

The mom asked the girls for suggestions on how to make the trip to the grocery store a better experience for all. The 4-year-old suggested that they bring snacks from home so they wouldn’t nag for cookies. The 3-year-old said she would sing quietly to herself so she would feel happy.

The girls remembered their promises, and the next trip to the supermarket went much more smoothly. Leaving the store, the younger girl asked, “Do you feel really upset now, Mommy?” The mother assured her that she felt just fine and remarked how nice it was that nobody got into an argument.

Do these small problem-solving exercises actually help a child learn the value of consideration? You bet. Over time, even a young child sees that words or actions can make another person smile or feel better, and that when she’s kind to someone else, that person is nice to her. This feedback encourages other genuine acts of consideration.

Value #5: Love

Be Generous with Your Affection
Parents tend to think that children are naturally loving and generous with their affection. This is true, but for loving sentiments to last, they need to be reciprocated. It’s chilling to realize that over the course of a typical busy day, the phrase “I love you” is probably the one that a child is least likely to hear.

Let your child see you demonstrate your love and affection for the people in your life. Kiss and hug your spouse when the kids are around. Talk to your children about how much you love and appreciate their grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins.

And, of course, don’t let a day pass without expressing your affection for your child himself. Show your love in unexpected ways: Pack a note in his lunch box. Tape a heart to the bathroom mirror so he’ll see it when he brushes his teeth. Give her a hug-for no reason. Don’t allow frantic morning drop-offs or frenetic afternoon routines squeeze loving gestures out of your day.

I can practically guarantee you that the more you say “I love you” to your child, the more your child will say “I love you” back. The more hugs and kisses you give, the more your home will be filled with love and affection. And when our children feel free to express their love to us, we instill in them perhaps the greatest value of all.

 

 

Parenting Differences Around the World

 

The Mother Company

 

An interview with Mei-Ling Hopgood

When Mei-Ling Hopgood, a first-time mom from suburban Michigan, moved to Buenos Aires, she was shocked to find out that Argentine parents allow their children to stay up until all hours of the night. How could these little night owls be so calm and happy when, in the U.S., don’t we all know that young children should be in bed by 7 pm sharp? Is it possible that customs so different from our own “right way” to parent actually offer social and developmental advantages? Guided by her journalist’s curiosity, Hopgood scoured the globe to see how different cultures address the parenting challenges we all face: bedtimes, potty training, feeding, teaching, and more. Her findings resulted in the new book, How Eskimos Keep Their Babies Warm. We recently asked her to give us a sneak peak. — Jacqueline T., TMC Producer

You went on an around-the-world tour to understand how different cultures approach common issues in parenting. What did you find? How do global practices differ from common parenting practices in the U.S.?

Here’s the scoop…

Early Toilet Training: In parts of India and China (especially rural China), parents may initiate toilet training when babies are as young as six months to a year old. Instead of the little plastic potties we’re used to seeing, kids crawl and run around diaper-free; parents often have their babies wear special split-crotch pants and peeing on the ground, during toilet training, is not considered a problem. The bottom line? Children in these cultures end up toilet-trained long before most American children are.

Starting Solids: In France, children may eat only pureed foods until they are two years old as a way to train their taste buds to accept more flavors and different foods. Eating textured foods or “food chunks”, as is common in the US, is viewed by most French parents as a surefire way to turn young children off from more adventurous foods. But this doesn’t mean a steady diet of jarred carrots and peas. The baby food aisle in French supermakets is filled with such pureed gourmand favorites as foie gras and pâtes ratatouille veau.

Teaching Responsibility: Among the Mayans who live in Mexico and Central America, even the youngest children are assigned household chores and farm work as a way to develop their work ethic. But this isn’t just to receive a sticker on their chore chart at the end of the day! Mayan parents expect their children to help out with the family’s financial obligations starting at an early age.

Children’s Friendships: Does it always seem like you end up refereeing whose turn it is on the slide or whether that last ball really was a foul? This doesn’t happen in Japan where the approach to playground squabbles is to let the children work it out for themselves.

Strollers: Moms in the US may think a stroller is a must-have, but there really are places in the world where they almost don’t exist. In Kenya, mothers wear their babies in colorful cloth slings—not only is it part of their cultural heritage, but strollers seem downright silly on Nairobi’s chaotic sidewalks.

Sleep:  In Argentina, it’s not uncommon at midnight or later to see little kids of all ages at restaurants and parties.  I soon learned, however, that if you dig beneath the surface, you see that Argentine parents are not allowing their children to be sleep-deprived. It’s just expected in their culture that kids adjust to their parents’ eating hours, which can run quite late. As it is in other cultures, eating together is valued as an important part of family life and something that is beneficial for children, and this is their way of making it happen. Children in Argentina still get enough sleep, just not at the same times as most kids in the United States.

You tried out some of these practices with your own daughter. What did you learn from your experience? What can all parents learn from the global diversity of parenting styles?

I learned that kids are very resilient and will take on the expectations we set out for them. I also learned that kids can be potty trained young and I can survive without a stroller (though I don’t want to). For other parents, I hope learning about other cultures helps them feel less daddy/mommy guilt about doing things exactly right. The tone of so much of the parenting advice we get is so shrill. It’s helpful to look beyond our micro-focused parenting world and put all of it in the larger context of the world.

The overall lesson I’d love to pass on with my book is that there are many ways in the world to be a good parent and raise a healthy child. Really, there is no perfect way.

– Mei-Ling Hopgood is a freelance journalist and writer who has written for various publications, ranging from the National Geographic Traveler and New Beauty Magazine to the Miami Herald and the Boston Globe. She has worked as a reporter with the Detroit Free Press, the St. Louis Post-Dispatch and in the Cox Newspapers Washington bureau, and has been a recipient of the National Headliner Best in Show as well as several other national and international awards. A newspaper feature she wrote for the St. Louis Post-Dispatch about the reunion with her birth family won a national award from the Asian American Journalists Association. She lives in Buenos Aires, Argentina, with her husband and their daughter. Find out more about How Eskimos Keep Their Babies Warm at http://www.mei-linghopgood.com.

The Mother Company aims to support parents and their children, providing thought-provoking web content and products based in social and emotional learning for children ages 3-6. Check out the first episode of our children’s series, “Ruby’s Studio: The Feeling Show,” along with our beautiful children’s booksmusichandmade dolls, and more.  We want to be a truly helpful parenting tool… For you!

 

10 Mom-Tested Hand-Washing Tricks

Source: Parenting.com

How real moms get their kids to lather up and kill germs

By Kate Rope

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We all know that washing hands is important, but we also know we’re so over the 10 minutes of negotiation that can precede it. Use these mom-developed techniques to keep your kids clean — and you sane.

Experts say you need to wash your hands for at least 20 seconds to really get the germs off, but studies find that most kids leave the water running for less than five seconds. The moms we surveyed had these great ideas to make them wash longer:

    • Have them sing Happy Birthday — twice — while they wash
    • Use a kitchen timer or an hourglass to make it fun and accurate
  • Ask them to count to 10 slowly or 20 at a normal pace

Make it a Mantra

“When my son was potty training, I always told him to ‘cover, flush, and wash,'” says Jennifer Shu, M.D., a pediatrician in Atlanta, Georgia, mom and coauthor of Heading Home With Your Newborn. When you “build it into the routine and make it expected,” it eliminates the need to negotiate every time. Kam, a mom from Redondo Beach, CA, agrees. The secret, she says, is “Routine, routine, routine. Every time we get home, we take off our jackets, shoes and socks, and wash hands before we can do anything else.”

Set Up a Kid-Friendly Wash Station

“Make it so they can reach everything they need,” recommends Shu. Set up a stool, a special towel, and a soap dispenser within easy reach so that they can take pride in doing it all by themselves (and you can get back to what you were doing).

Have Some Fun

You don’t need us to tell you that kids will buy into anything if it’s fun. But you may not know about all the amusing soap options out there.

“We buy all kinds of crazy soap,” says Elizabeth, a mom from Long Island, NY, “like the ones where the bottles light up so you can close the door and have a disco show. My almost-four-year-old old would spend half an hour in there if I let him!”

If washing hands is not exciting enough on its own, try these sneaky tactics. Cary, a mom from Brooklyn, NY, fills the sink up with water and soap, and drops in a pot and a sponge so she can “‘wash dishes,’ and her hands get super clean.” Erica, from Pleasantville, CA, and mom of three, does soapy washcloth high-fives with her kids to keep them entertained and get as much lather as she can on those six little hands.

Schedule an Inspection

New soaps have come out that change colors once your child’s hands have been washed long enough. For Sandy, a mom from New Haven, CT, “It works like a charm. We have to stopmy son from washing his hands!”

Make a Dirty Ditty

No, not that kind! Diane, a mom from Columbia, SC, taught her children a reminder tune that makes washing easy to remember and more fun to do. She sings it to the tune of Frere Jacques:

Front and back
Front and back
In between
In between
Rub them both together
Rub them both together
Now they’re clean
Now they’re clean

Another option:

Twinkle, twinkle little star.
Look how clean my two hands are.
Soap and water, wash and scrub.
Get those germs off rub-a-dub.
Twinkle, twinkle little star.
Look how clean my two hands are.


Let a Celebrity Sell ItPick a soap based on your child’s latest character obsession. From SpongeBob to Hello Kitty, there’s an appropriate celebrity soap for avid fans. An idol closer to home works too. “My daughter, who is almost three, is really into using my products,” says Jessica, a mom from Brooklyn, NY. “We act like the regular hand soap is strictly mine and then we make a big deal out of letting her use ‘Mommy’s soap.'”

When All Else Fails — FOAM!

You can’t beat the old-school fun of anything that foams, especially for little kids. Look for foamy version of hand soap and sanitizer. Cary, mom to Alice in Brooklyn, says her daughter “always asks for ‘a big squirt on both hands, Mama,’ which is fine with me.”

Parenting Tips In Today’s Modern Society

BY: DONNA CHAFFINS

 

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Parenting is not an easy job. However, today’s morally corrupt society makes this task a lot harder. Fortunately, there are a number of things that you can do to help your child grow into a happy and well-adjusted adult. Below are some parenting tips that will help you out a lot:

Show Your Children That You Love Them

Children need and want to feel loved by their parents. That is why you should take time to show them that you love them every day. When a child is constantly shown love by his or her parents, that child grows up with a sense of security and confidence. You do not have to spend a lot of money on your children to show them love. Your children will value the time that you spend with them more than they value the things that you purchase for them.

Set a Good Example

There are a lot of bad influences on the television and Internet. Children are also exposed to bad influences when they go to school. It is impossible to protect your children from all of the bad influences in the world. However, one of the things that you can do is set a good example. If your child sees you living a morally decent life, then he or she will naturally want to follow suit.

Set Firm Limits

Discipline is one of the most controversial parenting topics today. Many parents are too permissive while others are too strict. As a parent, you have to learn how to set firm, flexible limits. Children who do not have enough limits may grow up thinking that they can do whatever they want. These children often have to go to a boarding school. On the other hand, children who have overbearing parents may have trouble adjusting to the real world when they get out on their own.

Encourage Your Child

Growing up gets tough sometimes and children may get frustrated. That is why they need encouragement. If your child makes a mistake, then you should encourage them to get back up and try again. This teaches your child to become resilient.

You also need to encourage your child to pursue his or her interests. For example, if your child has an interest in athletics, then you should encourage him or her to try out for a sport. You should encourage your child to take dance lessons if he or she has an interest in music.

Raising children is hard, but fortunately, there are ways to make it easier. Showing your child that you love them, setting limits, encouraging them and setting a good example are some of the keys to great parenting.

 

Source: Blog by Donna

Must-Know Winter Health & Safety Tips

Parenting Magazine

Your biggest cold-weather questions answered, with advice on winter sports, skin care, the best cold-weather wardrobe, and more.

By Deborah Skolnik
Winter fun is beckoning, but keeping kids healthy, warm, and entertained can be trickier than putting snow boots on a squirrel. Little guys will head straight into a blizzard in their underwear if they can; big ones may need the Wiimote pried away. Here’s how to make sure everyone gets out there and has a great time, safely.

Can They… Go Outside?

Windy days can feel much colder than the actual temperature. When deciding how long kids (and adults!) can play outdoors safely, the windchill factor is most important. Keep this chart handy:

Green Zone: 30°F and higher

Kids can usually play outside comfortably when it’s 30°F and higher — just layer their clothing and make sure they wear hats and mittens. Offer water often (it helps regulate body temperature), and watch for signs that they’re getting chilled. If they’re shivering, bring them inside even if they insist they’re fine. Feel babies’ hands and (if possible) feet regularly to see if they’re turning icy; also watch for unexplained fussiness. It’s a good idea to come inside for a quick break every 40 minutes or so, just to warm up a bit.

Yellow Zone: About 20°F – 30°F

Be cautious. It’s okay for your kids to go out, but follow the guidelines above, and expect to see signs of chill sooner — take short indoor breaks every 20 to 30 minutes. It’s especially crucial to layer older kids’ clothes, since they may ditch their coats if they get sweaty and so need to be wearing more than a thin shirt underneath.

Red Zone: Below 20°F

Stay indoors.